Training my brain – to not fear the pain.

Overcoming Chronic Pain: How I Styled My Life to Heal

One of the biggest challenges I’ve worked to overcome in styling my life is eliminating chronic pain — that debilitating pain that stops you from functioning normally, let alone thriving.

Reducing inflammation over time is key to tackling the root cause of this pain. To do that, it’s important to combine the right foods, strengthening exercises, and mindful practices that help reduce stress on the body.

Many people believe chronic pain has no cure. They get stuck in a cycle of hopelessness because that’s the message they’ve been given. They think their future will be bleak, and their quality of life will suffer because of their condition.

But I know that’s not true. It is possible to ease, even block out pain through mindful practices — by changing the neural pathways in the brain, rewiring old destructive thoughts, and building the intuition that healing is possible.

If this sounds overwhelming, don’t worry. It all starts with simple, mindful focus. Here are three steps to get you started:

1. Visualize the Healing Process

A great time to do this is just before you fall asleep. Imagine the pain fading away. Picture a violet light surrounding the source of your pain (for me, it was the top of my spine). Repeat to yourself: “I radiate health and vitality.”

This might sound unusual, but this type of visualisation has been practiced for thousands of years in places like Egypt, China, and India — cultures with a strong track record of well-being.

2. Practice Ho’oponopono

Pronounced ho-o-po-no-po-no, this is a traditional Hawaiian forgiveness practice. It’s about forgiving yourself for any ways you might have contributed to your illness — not in a harsh or blaming way, but by releasing limiting beliefs and negative emotions like stress, frustration, and bitterness.

By replacing these with gratitude and self-love, you can unlock a surprising amount of healing and pain relief.

3. Learn to Take a Break

You don’t have to do everything. Trying to do it all is exhausting and harmful!

Did you know 80% of people living with chronic pain are women? Many women juggle high-pressure jobs, motherhood, and caregiving roles — and often feel guilty about resting. But rest is not laziness. It’s essential for healing.

Changing this mindset takes work, but it’s necessary to create a self-healing lifestyle.

Maybe you can’t yet believe you can eliminate your pain. But I have. And I’ve seen others transform their lives dramatically too.

It took me years of consistent effort and a desperate desire to be free of pain. I learned to reconnect with myself and face the pain without fear. Often, pain feels as strong as you expect it to be — so by leaning into it and training my brain to focus elsewhere, it lost its power over me.

There are many more mindful practices to explore — and if you’re ready to start your own healing journey, I’m here to support you.

Reach out today, and let’s explore how you can take back control of your life.